I’m struggling with my calibration between persistence vs vacuum. If you treat game as sales, then any phone number you get is a lead. All leads should be followed up, but the strength of the lead determines how you should deal with it. My problem is weak numbers, and how to deal with them. The problem is with weak numbers, the girl already holds all the value, as soon as you text her and she isn’t responding, then the power shifts noticeably to her. You are trying to get her attention, she reads your text then decides not to respond.
You lose value for every follow up and ping text you send her where she doesn’t respond. What is her mindset in this case, well who knows, there a million reasons why she doesn’t respond, but it all boils down to one thing. How high she perceives your sexual market value relative to her and relative to her other suitors. With that in mind, the more you text her with her not responding the more you lower your value, and the less likely she is to respond.
Hang on though, as a guy it’s my job to be persistent and her job to resist, so how does this relate to dealing with her not responding. Non-response is her resisting me, me texting her is my persistence.
So the more she resists, I think the less I should persist. In this case the only viable non-persistence is the vacuum. I stop sending her texts, then I am waiting for her to feel the sense of loss from my lack of attention and re-engage me. Alternatively i leave it a significant length of time, for my value to recharge then I can ping off another feeler text. What should that length of time be?
The general consensus is that if you send two texts and she hasn’t replied you have to vacuum. For me I’ve found I’m too quick to break ranks, and want to persist, just because of the very nature of text being a low level investment. I’ve decided this is the wrong mindset, even if it is a low investment activity, it’s still giving her undeserved attention. My advice therefore: no-longer flog the dead text horse, instead to vacuum longer, much longer than you are normally comfortable with.
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